It is believed that women are natural-born multitask machines. Yes, often it is expected that ladies should be good, if not great, in almost anything – from jobs to household chores. And usually, those expectations are real. What happens when with this hasty life and too many juggling balls, you simply feel overwhelmed and burned out? In that case, at least one ball will fall out, and then, everything can go wrong. If you stretch yourself to the limit each day, you are not only risking the quality of the work you are doing, but also your health. The key of successful juggling is in achieving balance, while not pushing yourself too hard.
Step Back and Be Proud
If you take juggling as simply “the thing you do”, you will not appreciate how skilful you are in it. Once in a while, take some time to stop, step back, see all the things you have done, and be proud how you have accomplished them. It will give you a clearer picture of how much effort you are putting in, and you will be more forgiving to yourself for some occasional mistakes down the road. Yes, you might have displaced some file at work or forgot to cook lunch one day, but look at all the amazing things you did do.
Coping with Stress
One of the most common consequences of pushing yourself too hard is stress. Furthermore, that stress affects your ability to perform well at your job and at home, and even causes some health issues. Some short term solutions are ignoring the problem, eating unhealthy food, etc. Rather than solutions, they are part of the problem. Instead, try to deal with stress with positive thoughts, meditation, prayers, and some relaxing activities. Maybe you can choose a hobby, such as dancing, craftwork, etc.
Making It All Work Together
Now that we have got the easier part covered, we move on to what is really on the mind of every woman: How to make everything work together? Well, first you must have some set of ground rules and a few tricks up your sleeve. Here are some things you can do.
- Prioritize: Make a list of your priorities for each day, week and month. Discuss it with your family members and boss, if necessary.
- Establish a routine: This does not mean you have to be a “control freak”, rather that you want to put all the pieces together.
- Get help: There is nothing wrong in asking for help. You can ask your husband, friend, a family member or even professionals to assist around your chores. According to Pristine Home, hiring a cleaning service for just a couple of hours a week can be immensely liberating.
- Schedule: Make a monthly to-do list for cleaning the house. For example, each 10th of the month you are cleaning thoroughly the bathroom, each 17th the refrigerator, etc.
- Say no: Sometimes you think that if you say you cannot do something the world will come to an end. Since that is far from being true, anytime you feel that you are overwhelmed just say no.
- Take some time to relax: Always take some time to enjoy with your family, husband, friends, or even by yourself.
- Never skimp on sleep: Get your 8 hours, always.
- Talk to your employer: Your boss should know how much you care for the job, but that you also have some other priorities. Discuss about the strategies to help you maintain balance between house and work.
- Seek alternatives: If your job requires long hours and travel, establish an acceptable alternative (e.g. three days work in office, two days telecommuting).
— Zigverve.com (@zigverve) March 5, 2016
Juggling is hard, exhausting and overwhelming, but if you find some balance in all the chaos, you will do just fine.