Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life. We all know that most little girls dream of their big day and when they’ll get to join hands with the ones they love. Most little boys talk about being family men and sharing a wonderful life with their beloved. It all starts with the wedding day. Of course, when we grow up we realize that the fantasy wedding requires a lot of work in order for it to become real.
Weddings may be one of the most important days in our lives, but they’re also one of the most stressful ones. The preparation for your wedding day starts as much as a year before the actual day just to ensure that everything goes smoothly. After all, this is a huge ceremony and party we’re talking about. As it’s also a symbolic and important event, it requires even more effort to make everything perfect.
With so many things to do and so many people to coordinate, is avoiding wedding stress even possible? Luckily, it is. Your wedding dream doesn’t have to turn into a nightmare just because you realize there are too many things to take care of before the actual ceremony. Everything can go smoothly if you follow these tips.
1. Prepare yourself mentally
The truth is, avoiding all of the stress is not possible. No matter how well you prepare and what you do, there’s always going to be something to stress you out on your wedding day. You’re the host, and not the guest, which means that you’ll always find something that you know should have been different. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should stop trying entirely. Instead, just make sure you prepare yourself mentally for all that could go wrong.
It’s very hard to let go of something very important to you and that’s completely normal. What you have to realize, though, is that this wedding is going to eat you up if you don’t accept that there’s a real chance it’s going to be less than perfect. This doesn’t mean you did anything wrong or that you failed, just that life and circumstances are unpredictable.
You should walk into the wedding with low expectations and basically expect everything to be on fire. This perspective will help you see that things aren’t that bad and will cheer you up when you see things going the right way. The big things are those that matter, not the details. Nobody cares the flowers are the wrong shade of pink because nobody knows the shade was supposed to be anything but that. The important thing is that the flowers are there and that they look good nonetheless. Stressing yourself over things like this is not going to do anyone any good, least of all you.
2. Set a schedule
When the joy of getting engaged washes over, you’re left with all the other overwhelming things you’re supposed to do. From picking the flowers to picking the dress to catering to the venue, it seems the list just goes on and on. All of this can cause a lot of stress and anxiety as it seems you’ll never finish organizing the wedding.
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To help relieve stress in this situation, you should create a schedule with your fiancé. The point is to have everything written down with approximate dates of when you’re supposed to be completing these tasks. This keeps you on top of your wedding organization but also keeps the schedule flexible. You have to understand that not everything will go according to plan, which is why the plan shouldn’t be too specific. Otherwise, you’re just going to make things harder on yourself when you realize you’re behind on your scheduled dates.
The schedule should just be a draft of the things that need to be done. As no one can predict the future, you have no idea if the schedule will actually be in accordance with real-life circumstances. This is more than okay- it’s normal and expected. When you accept that fact, things will run much more smoothly and without stress to slow you down.
3. Book beauty appointments in advance
One of the biggest mistakes brides make is not booking the beauty appointments before the wedding day. Right before the wedding isn’t when you should be experimenting with your hair and makeup. What if you don’t like it? What if it just looked so much better in your head? The worst part is that you’ll always have wedding photos to remind you of your mistake.
To avoid this potential catastrophe, you should simply book the beauty appointment well before the wedding. Find the hairdresser and makeup artist that you like, talk to them about what kind of makeup and hairdo you were thinking about for the wedding, and ask them when you can try it out.
This gives you the opportunity to make a mistake. If what you envisioned for your hair and makeup doesn’t look the way you thought it would, you don’t have to stress. After all, there’s still plenty of time until the wedding, so there’s a lot of time to figure something else out. You can even ask your stylist for advice, as they have a lot more experience in the field and will be able to recommend the right hair and makeup for you.
Then, you can be sure that you’ll look absolutely gorgeous at your wedding day and can go on with organizing other aspects of the wedding. Make sure to book your actual appointment in advance so you don’t risk there not being any room on the date of your wedding.
4. Have the food ready for you
Spending so much time making sure everything is perfect often means that the bride and groom are just greeting guests, taking photos, and chasing down wait staff. By the time you sit down to eat, the tables have already been cleared, and you’re left starving and tired on your own wedding day. What’s the point of picking out amazing food if you’re not even going to get a chance to taste it. Not only is this unhealthy, but it’s also extremely stressful and frustrating.
This is why you should make sure that the food is ready for you. Before the ceremony, have the staff prepare your food first. Tell them it should be waiting for you at the beginning of the ceremony i.e. as soon as you enter the venue. This way, you’ll get to snack on the food while you make rounds and take photos.
A full tummy is a happy tummy, which means you’ll be rather happy too. The whole world seems to be much harder to deal with on an empty stomach. With this simple trick, there’s absolutely no need for you to stress and worry about getting food when there’s so much to do at the actual ceremony.
5. Decide on things together
More often than not, it seems that only the bride decides about the nature of the wedding. It’s commonly accepted that the groom is just expected to show up. This is her big day, her dream wedding, her flowers, her dress, her cake… People seem to forget that the bride isn’t marrying herself. As well as that, this puts all the pressure and stress on the bride to make everything perfect. Organizing a soiree at home by yourself is stressful, so imagine what it feels like to organize a whole wedding?
Your fiancé is the man you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. You’re going to share the good and the bad together and work out the gimmicks of life as a team. Why should that start after you exchange your vows? A symbol of a strong and healthy relationship is if you handle things together even before actually getting married.
That’s why it’s important to organize everything together. Your fiancé must have some wishes and ideas about the wedding, too. This is his big as well as yours, and including him in the planning will only make things easier for both of you.
In the end, when you’re enjoying the ceremony with your friends and family, you’ll know that this magical day was truly the product of both of your hard work and devotion.
6. Solving the money issues
No matter how rich you are, the common problem of all weddings is the money. This is because making your dreams into reality and having the wedding you envisioned simply proves to be too expensive. Fighting and stressing about money is common to all engaged couples. Some start saving early and others are lucky enough to have their parents paid for them. Still, neither of these options are enough most of the time. People simply aren’t made of money, which is definitely going to cause issues and stress on your wedding day. You can easily fix this by applying for low-interest wedding loans. There are companies all over the world that offer these and allow you to throw your dream wedding without worrying about the cost.
Then, you’ll have more time to pay for your wedding and you won’t be under so much stress to have it all ready by the set date. Instead, you’ll decorate everything with style, choose the perfect venue, pick the perfect dress, and even have money for the most delicious food.
7. Let your family take care of you
One of the most stressful parts of any wedding are relatives. They’re so excited and happy for you, yet they just keep making things harder. Nobody wants their bothersome relatives to mettle in the organization of the wedding, but it just seems inevitable. Suddenly it feels like this is everything but your special day and the frustration keeps building up. This can result in poor family relationships and dissatisfaction all around.
You have to understand that your family is doing all of this out of a place of love. This doesn’t make their actions valid, but it does help you understand that nobody’s against you. You’re all on the same side and all want to have the most magical day possible. It’s your job to channel their energy away from things important to you.
This can be done very easily. You can give your family tasks that seem important, but you don’t really care about. Let your uncle pick up the dress for you, take your mother and aunt to taste cakes with you, and let your family decide which little cousin should be the flower girl.
One other thing you can do is to let your family take care of you. No matter how old you are, your parents will always see you as their child. Will it hurt you if you let them see you as one just a little? As this is a big change and shock for them, allow them to show their love and adjust to your new-found adulthood in the only way they know how- by taking care of you.
Let your mother make you breakfast, watch a movie with your dad like you did when you were kids, and tell them thank you for everything. Not only will this ease family tensions and stress, but will also restore important relationships.
As you can see, your dream wedding is a short way away. You can easily achieve the perfection you’re looking for and host an amazing wedding if you follow these tips. Stress is a normal part of life that we can’t avoid entirely, but that doesn’t mean we should succumb to it either.
In other words, you can expect things to be somewhat stressful even after following these tips, but the stress level will be nowhere near crushing or damaging to your spirit or physical health. We’re confident you’ll be able to enjoy your day without giving yourself too big of a headache now that you’ve got the right plan of action in your hands.